As with any sudden or unexpected death, those who have lost a loved one to death by suicide have not had time to say goodbye. This suddenness, coupled with the violence of a death by suicide and common misunderstanding and stigma surrounding the death, can greatly intensify, complicate and extend the time of the grief process. It is important to remember and know that it may be normal for survivors to face guilt about being unable to save the life of their loved one and spend time asking “why” their love one took their own life before being able to move forward in the grief process. Allow them time to accept losing the loved one and time to heal. Survivors may be at increased risk of death by suicide themselves, so please pay close attention to their actions and thoughts. Family and friends can provide support for normal grief process and minimize complicated grief and guilt reactions. Try to encourage the person who lost the loved one to explore community resources and contact mental health providers for assistance.
You can help by spotting warning signs of suicide. Here’s a few to keep in mind:
1.Preoccupation with death and dying
2.Drastic changes in behavior or personality
3.A recent severe loss (such as a relationship) or threat of a loss
4.Unexpected preparations for death such as making out a will
5.Giving away prized possessions
6.A previous suicide attempt
7.Uncharacteristic impulsiveness, recklessness, or risk-taking
8.Loss of interest in personal appearance
9.Increased use of alcohol or drugs
10.Sense of hopelessness about the future