I miss you, I miss you, it’s so easy to see, I miss you and me.
Aris’ teacher, Mr. Holland, presented her with her high school diploma at graduation. He said the following words to her then. He also said them at a celebration of life held in memory of Aris. He felt it was appropriate as each time marked a transition period in Aris’ life.
Many walk by each other without seeing
Go through life without looking
Aris sees that each of us has talent
I call talents responsibilities
For they are not for us alone
But our responsibility to share
To thereby make the lot of all better
Aris looks and finds miracles daily
A sunrise, a sunset, lilacs in bloom,
every person in this room.
“Still waters run deep”
An old saying
Old because there is much truth
Aris is deep
Not deep like a well, for a well has a bottom
Not deep like an ocean, for an ocean has a floor
Even stretched to the limits of metaphor or simile,
Words can’t encompass Aris’ spirit,
In our Metro we do the usual school activities
Taking attendance, announcements, assignments, tracking student progress
Only with us one year
Directs our attention to principles underlying our Metro activities
The Metropolitan Learning Center Character Traits
Compassion, Integrity, Courage, Self Discipline, Respect
From near the center of her calmness
She draws us to what is prior to the MLC Character Traits,
I felt this inspiration when I wrote a poem a week ago in a MLC Diversity meeting
Race is a sieve
Sifting people by color
Piles of red, yellow, white, brown, black
Friendship is a wind
Love a hurricane
Beach of humanity
Aris, I give you this diploma knowing I will daily miss The inspiration of your still waters running deep
May you be blessed with…a little less stress
May the days be good to you: comforting more often than crazy… and giving more often than taking.
May the passing seasons make sure that any heartaches are replaced with a thousand smiles and that any hard journeys eventually turn into nice, easy miles that take you everywhere you want to go.
Always stay strong, fight on, and be brave. When things get a little too overwhelming, remember that there is a better day on the way, and it’s just a matter of time… before it brightens up your life and makes everything right again.
Heal Your Wounds
Many of us ask ourselves in life, “Am I unlovable?” Often this question arises after a difficult relationship, be it romantic or familial, that leads us to believe we are. Only when we resolve the pain of these experiences will we believe ourselves worthy of affection. That belief is what allows our capacity for love to grow.
Most days, I just miss Aris. I wish her picture would talk back and she could give me a big hug.